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Selfish for Self Care?

I've heard it over and over. I've seen memes. "I sacrifice everything for my children". Sounds good. But really? 

Sure, there are the basic things you're going to sacrifice, sleep when they're infants or when they're sick, and any of the other things that cover the little sunspots' basic needs but at what point do you take care of your own basic needs? And in my mind peace of mind is a basic need that needs much attention, especially by young mothers.

While playing the martyr and wearing your sacrifices and insanity like a badge of glory I ask you, what are you teaching your children? You are teaching your child that the sun and moon rises and sets on their little coppertone bottoms! And while in your eyes they do, in the real world....it doesn't.  From experience I can tell you that you are raising children who expect everyone around them to make sacrifices for them and instilling a sense of entitlement in them. If you want to teach them to be selfless, do so by having them do acts of kindness towards others as well as showing acts of kindness by example. But not at the cost of you neglecting your own needs.  Moms of daughters especially, teach your daughter by example. She needs to know that self care is very important.  

Both stay at home moms and working moms I can promise you, the better you are at taking care of yourself, the better off you will be at taking care of your family. There is a breaking point, I promise. And it's not pretty.  Don't become full of resentment because you sacrificed everything.  Your workout time, eating healthy, quiet time, a long soak in a hot bathtub are vital to your thriving.  And in turn, you are teaching your children to do the same for themselves.  

Namaste my crazies.